Most of the time, nowadays especially, people fail to distinguish between the true meaning of love and lust in terms of relationship and feelings. We all want to fall in love. Don’t you?  Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Being with the person we want to be with, to be kissed and hug or even into deeper intimacy.  

But is it the real thing? Is the feeling we have is for keeps or just another bodily urge? 

How do we know?

Most relationships don’t lasts that long because of the misconception of lust from love. Many relationships end because what they thought was love was mere lust. The problem with lust is that it can never be satisfied, and without the real love causes a person to lose interest in the feelings they have of what they thought will last a lifetime therefore leading to a break-up.

What is love anyway? Love is the commitment; it’s more than just about feelings.  Real love comes most often after you really know who you are and are comfortable with your attitude, your dreams, and just being yourself.  Love is the desire to extend yourself towards a person. Love is not about “me” – what I can have? – It’s about 
“you”—what can I do to make your happy?

Lust on the other hand is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy towards a person in a short period of time. It is fueled by idea and projection that you see what you hope someone will be or need them to be rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all. The feeling is temporary, it doesn’t last.

So, how do you know if you’re in love and not just lust? Here’s my simple checklist to know if you are in love or in lust.

You’re in LUST if:

  You’re totally focused on a person’s bodily features.

  Your conversations are always flirtatious.

  You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level and not discuss real feelings at all.

  You’re focused more on the fantasies than the actual facts and responsibilities of a relationship.

  You’re interested in having sex more than anything else.

You’re in LOVE if:

  You want to spend quality time together other than sex.

  You’re having so much fun being with them and forget about the hours passing.

  You are committed to sticking together even through the most difficult circumstances
  He or she motivates and inspires you to be a better person.

  You want to be the best person you can be with.

After assessing yourself “Are you still in love?” but that’s not the question. The real question is, “Do you STILL choose to love that person or not?” Not tomorrow, not the next day but TODAY. Make a choice. Yes or no. If the answer is yes, love as hard as you can. Love with everything you’ve got your capacity right now at this point in your life. So the next time you’ll feel something towards someone, ask yourself……Is It Love … Or Just Lust ?

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